Why old friends keep you poor…
Summary
- I keep my circle of friends small because quick growth requires shedding things that no longer bring value.
- I divide my life into seasons, such as high school, college, and post-college, and with each new season, certain people naturally fall away.
- Constantly reevaluate friendships; not all are bound for greatness, many get left behind as we progress.
- Recognize there's a price for everything we want, and willingness to pay that price distinguishes the successful from the unsuccessful.
- I cut people out sooner if they label me in ways that don't match my growth and goals.
- The strength of a relationship is proportional to what you're willing to sacrifice to maintain it.
- Relationships are transactional, providing mutual benefits; it's about reinforcement or punishment of behaviors.
- Over time, it's normal to change friendships, especially when the utility gained from them diminishes.
- It's okay to move on from relationships that no longer serve you, it can be an act of kindness for both parties.
- Shedding identities that don't align with our goals is a crucial part of personal and entrepreneurial growth.
- Time and energy should be focused to maximize progress; scattered investments lead to slower movement.
- For close relationships that no longer work, be kind and honest; directly communicate your feelings instead of gossiping.
- Pursuing a rare life means associating with rare people; friendships might not last forever, but they can still be meaningful.
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How To Take Action
I would suggest focusing on who you surround yourself with. Start with a small circle of friends that support your growth. If a friend doesn't help you move forward, it might be time for them to go. Remember, every relationship is like a trade; you both should be getting something good from it.
Think about what you're giving up to keep friends around. If you're giving up a lot and it's not helping you, you may need to let some friends go. You love them more if you're willing to sacrifice more. Sometimes, you need to be brave and tell friends the hard truth if they're not good for you anymore.
It's also smart to join groups with people who want the same things you do. When you're around others with similar goals, you can help each other do great things. And it's okay if friendships change over time. Good friendships can make a season of your life awesome, but they don't always have to stay forever.
Here's what you can do step by step:
- List out your friends and think about what you get from each friendship. Does it help your goals?
- Decide if you're okay with what you give up to keep each friend. If not, it may be time to move on.
- Be honest and direct with friends you need to leave behind.
- Look for groups that match your interests and join them. Make friends who are excited about the same things you are.
- Remember, it's fine if friends change as you go through life. Learn from each friendship and keep moving towards your dream.
Quotes
"I grow really quickly because I don't hold onto things long the moment something doesn't provide me value, I shed it"
– Alex Hormozi
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"Most people suck at most things and aren't bound for greatness because of who they are and the choices they're willing to make"
– Alex Hormozi
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"Winners and losers have the same goals. The goal doesn't make you unique, it's the willingness to pay the price that makes you unique"
– Alex Hormozi
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"I am a big believer in utility: there is an exchange in every relationship"
– Alex Hormozi
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"You want to be a kind person, and the way you are kind is that you tell the truth and you just be honest"
– Alex Hormozi
