Why losing friends is normal…
Summary
- The saying "your network is your net worth" is only partially correct; it's not just about wealth but about the value and influence your network provides.
- I own Acquisition.com, a portfolio company doing over $100 million a year, and I appreciate real conversations even if they come with trolling comments online.
- As you grow and succeed, you may lose connection with old friends, which is natural and shouldn't be a cause for guilt.
- Dean Graziosi, a close friend and mentor, shared that achieving dreams has a cost, such as negative attention or privacy invasions, but these are prices he's willing to pay for impact.
- Don't maintain friendships out of obligation; relationships should involve mutual growth and value exchange.
- Growth can lead to a loss of friends when they either don't support your success or your paths diverge; this is often a sign of personal development.
- It's essential to be comfortable with being alone, which helps be more selective with the friends you choose to have in your life.
- True friends will praise you behind your back and challenge you face-to-face, fostering personal growth and supporting your endeavors.
- Friendship dynamics change over time, and while it's okay to grow apart from old friends, it's crucial to make room for new ones who align better with your current path.
- Hold a high standard for friendships, and don't rush to fill voids left by past relationships; real, supportive connections will form when you're patient and selective.
- Accept the changes and sacrifices in relationships as part of your growth into who you aspire to be; it's all part of the journey towards self-improvement and success.
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How To Take Action
I would suggest making new friends who support your goals and growth. If you lose old friends, that's okay. It's part of the journey. Here's what you can do:
- Assess your current friendships. Are they helping you grow, or just about the past? If they're not helping, it's okay to move on.
- Be okay with being alone. It's better to have a few true friends than lots of shallow ones. Take time to know yourself without the noise of others.
- When making new friends, look for people who challenge you face-to-face and praise you when you're not around. They should make you want to be better.
- Be patient when filling the void left by old friends. Don't rush to make new ones. The right people will come along with time.
- Remember, it's natural to grow apart from people. Accept it and don't feel guilty. Your path is unique to you.
- Keep your standards high for friendships. You deserve friends who truly root for you, even if it means having fewer of them.
By doing this, you create a strong circle that supports your personal growth and success. Remember to be patient and selective, and the right people will come into your life.
Quotes
"Real friends talk to your face and praise you behind your back"
– Alex Hormozi
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"I think if you can spend time alone with your thoughts and be okay with just being you without other people, then you are more selective"
– Alex Hormozi
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"I've got people who show up at my house and people who leave weird mean comments and he's like all the time. The thing is, is that that is a price I'm willing to pay to make the impact that I want to make with my life"
– Alex Hormozi
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"I didn't have a tremendous amount of support from my parents for the decisions that I took until it was already beyond obvious that I was going to be successful"
– Alex Hormozi
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"If you grow, you change; some people most people don't like change especially if they themselves have not grown or changed"
– Alex Hormozi
