Why Keeping Promises To Yourself Is REALLY Important
Summary
- I believe it's crucial to keep promises you make to yourself because breaking them damages your self-trust.
- When you break promises to yourself, your brain focuses on those negative experiences, which can create bad reference points.
- To rebuild trust with yourself, make new promises and keep them, creating positive evidence of your reliability.
- Having self-trust is tied to your integrity and the internal commitments you make and keep.
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How To Take Action
I would suggest implementing a simple practice to rebuild self-trust. Start by listing one or two small promises you’ve broken to yourself. These should be manageable and specific, like reading for 10 minutes a day or taking a daily walk.
A good way of doing this is to make a new promise around these small actions. For instance, commit to reading one page or taking a five-minute walk each day. These are low-cost, both in terms of time and money, but they pack a high-value punch in building trust.
Next, keep track of your progress. Use a notebook or an app to mark every time you keep your promise. This creates a positive evidence chain showing you can rely on yourself.
When you feel confident with small promises, try bigger ones. The goal is to gradually build more complex commitments, reinforcing your self-trust step by step.
Lastly, be patient with yourself. This process takes time, and it's okay to start small. Celebrate each success to reinforce that you are a person of integrity who keeps commitments. This practice will boost your confidence and reliability, impacting both personal growth and your business endeavors positively.
