Why I don’t follow my feelings..

Summary

• When trying to influence outcomes, focus on consistent actions that lead to observable results rather than trying to guess people's thoughts.
• Feelings exist but aren't useful in editing our activities; instead, focus on actions and feedback loops that drive results.
• It's empowering to create your own meaning in life; capital "M" Meaning suggests a universal purpose, while little "m" meaning is subjective and adaptable.
• Without a fixed meaning in life (capital "M" Meaning), it's harder but more rewarding to live by your self-derived values and principles.
• Beliefs should be treated as assumptions which can change with new evidence, reducing ego attachment and making them more flexible.
• Accept that there is no ultimate "should" or "must," which liberates you from societal expectations and allows you to act freely based on your values.
• Understanding that all emotions are part of the human experience and not inherently good or bad can alleviate unnecessary suffering caused by labeling them.
• Accept your emotions as natural, like weather patterns, without judging or trying to change them; their importance is situational and often overemphasized.
• Redefine personal terms and reframes situations in ways that align with your chosen values, leading to acceptance and resilience in the face of challenges.
• Personal growth and the ability to navigate life's difficulties often come from a willingness to redefine and accept rather than resist reality.

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How To Take Action

I would suggest focusing on actions instead of getting stuck in thoughts. If you see something that works, do more of that. Create a system where you do things, see results, and adjust. Don't worry too much about feelings, they're like the weather and don't always help in making good choices.

It's also empowering to make your own rules about what's important to you. This means deciding what you care about and using your choices to support those things. If things change, that's okay. You can always find new things that are important to you.

Instead of holding on to beliefs too tight, treat them like assumptions. This way, you can change them if you learn something new. It's like trying on clothes; if something doesn't fit, find something that does.

Remember, there's no universal "should" or "must." You are free to choose your path without worrying about what others expect. This lets you be brave and make choices based on what you believe, not what others say.

Accept all your feelings as normal parts of being human. Don't label them as good or bad. This can help you feel less pressure and be okay with who you are.

When things get tough, it helps to look at situations in new ways that fit with your values. This can give you strength and help you keep going. Accepting reality, instead of fighting it, helps a lot with personal growth.

So, decide what's meaningful for you, treat beliefs as flexible assumptions, and accept emotions without judgment. By doing these things, you can live freely and grow as a person.

Quotes

"We can just create whatever meaning we choose to"

– Alex Hormozi

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"I believe that there is no meaning"

– Alex Hormozi

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"We get to create and destroy meaning as we see fit"

– Alex Hormozi

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"Assumptions are based on things that we've observed and then we assume something as a result"

– Alex Hormozi

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"The labels create more suffering than anything that we ever actually experience"

– Alex Hormozi