There’s Nothing Wrong With Splitting the Bill

Summary

• If you're dating someone, it's okay to have expectations about paying for dates, but you need to express them directly.
• Don't get upset if a date expects you to pay—communication about expectations goes both ways.
• Treat relationships like a team in a business; clearly define roles and what you want to avoid confusion.
• Always explain your expectations to others so they have the chance to meet them or discuss them with you.

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How To Take Action

A good way of doing things in relationships or business is to be open and honest from the start. If you are going on dates, it's important to talk about who pays for what. Don't wait and get mad later. Just tell the other person what you think before you go out. It's like being on a team – everyone should know their job.

To make this work, do these simple things:

• Think about what's fair when you go on a date. Do you want to pay all the time, take turns, or split the cost? Decide what you think is right.
• When planning a date, have a quick talk about money. You can say something like, "I was thinking we could split the dinner bill tonight, how does that sound?"
• Listen to what your date thinks, too. They might have their own ideas, and that's okay. It's all about finding what works for both of you.
• Use the same idea in business. When you work with others, tell them exactly what you expect from them. Don't guess – be clear about the job and the rules.
• If someone doesn't understand what you want, talk about it. Make sure everyone is on the same page.
• Remember, it's not wrong to want something. The problem is when you don't tell people what you want and then get upset when they don't do it.

By being clear and talking things out, you can avoid a lot of confusion and make sure everyone is happy. It's easy to do and saves a lot of trouble later on. So next time, just say what you're thinking!

Quotes

"There's nothing wrong if you want the girl to pay for half and you want to pay for half"

– Leila Hormozi

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"The wrong part is when we don't express our expectations of somebody and then we expect them to uphold them anyways"

– Leila Hormozi