The Hardest Decision Of My Life
Summary
- I quit my white-collar job to start a gym because I realized I was playing someone else's game and not living my own life.
- I was terrified of my father's judgment, so I called him to tell him my decision only after I was already moving across the country.
- My father advised me to follow a plan, like going to Harvard or Stanford for an MBA, but I chose a different path.
- My biggest fear was that my father would be upset, and it came true; we didn't speak for a few years after I made my choice.
- This experience taught me the importance of pursuing my own goals, even if it meant not having my father's support.
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How To Take Action
I would suggest implementing the habit of making decisions true to yourself. If you're in a job or life situation that feels more like someone else’s ideal than your own, start by clarifying your values and goals. Write them down. This small step costs nothing but can be incredibly powerful.
Next, a good way to prepare for tough conversations is by role-playing them mentally. If you're afraid of someone's reaction, think about the worst-case scenario and how you'd handle it. Sometimes, just knowing what could happen makes the action less scary.
It’s also important to plan for resistance. Not everyone will support your path. I recommend finding a small group of people who do support your vision, as their encouragement will be invaluable when facing pushback.
When pursuing a new direction, like starting a business or changing careers, it’s wise to build basic financial security first. Use your current job to save money to cushion your transition. You don't need a detailed plan right away—just a safety net.
Lastly, remember, letting go of the need for approval can be freeing. Practice small acts of courage, like trying a new hobby or setting boundaries. Over time, these little actions build the muscle you need to live a life true to yourself.
