The Conversation You’ve Been Avoiding
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Summary
- Everything you want is often on the other side of a few difficult conversations. Framing these conversations by acting like you know less can help navigate them.
- I like to say, "Talk to me like I'm a golden retriever that has Down syndrome and doesn't speak English," to lower the pressure and show I'm not attacking anyone.
- This approach helps position the other person to explain things without feeling defensive.
- When someone responds, I find it useful to repeat what they said back to them to ensure clarity, like saying, "Okay, so if we mess up, we pay. Am I understanding that right?"
- Walking through conversations like this in a straightforward way usually helps reduce tension.
- If you can't have these types of conversations with someone, then you might not actually be friends.
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How To Take Action
I would suggest implementing the idea that tough conversations lead to growth. Start by framing these conversations in a relaxed way, acting like you know less than you do. This takes the pressure off both you and the other person. Use a silly line like, "Talk to me like I'm a golden retriever that has Down syndrome and doesn't speak English," to lighten the mood and signal you're not trying to attack.
A good way of navigating these talks is by listening carefully and repeating back what you hear. If someone explains something complex, summarize it back to them. Say, "So, if we mess up, we pay. Am I understanding that right?" This keeps the discussion clear and ensures you're both on the same page.
To add real value, keep your tone straightforward and matter-of-fact. This helps reduce any potential tension or defensiveness.
Lastly, if you cannot have open conversations with someone, assess the relationship. It might not be as strong as you think. In business or personal growth, building connections where you can communicate openly is crucial.
In summary, approaching challenging discussions with humility, clarity, and openness can make them much easier, leading to better understanding and stronger relationships.
