If you think like this, you will stay poor and unhappy…

Summary

• I've come to realize the importance of how language shapes our mindset and experiences.
• Proclaiming “I want to be happy” can actually create a gap between your current state and happiness, setting up a perpetual state of discontent.
• Stating a desire is like signing a contract to be unhappy until that desire is fulfilled, which is counterproductive to actual contentment.
• Questioning whether life needs to have inherent meaning can help alleviate self-imposed pressures and lead to acceptance of experiences as they are.
• Beliefs such as "marriage should be a compromise" or "I should work a certain amount" set expectations that might lead to dissatisfaction when unmet.
• By eliminating the need for judgement or justification of our actions (“I work because I work”), we can focus on the act itself, rather than on an expected outcome.
• Setting goals with the mindset that the process is the goal itself, without any attached outcomes, can liberate us from burdening expectations.
• I spend time discussing life with a philosopher friend, who helps me navigate and simplify complex thoughts, showing that the wisdom of others can be invaluable.
• I oppose the Alcoholics Anonymous approach of labeling oneself with a problem every day, as I believe it reinforces a negative self-image and focuses the mind on the issue.
• Affirmations can be useful, but a more powerful step might be to remove the concept of worthiness altogether and simply act without attaching value judgments.
• Accepting that ultimately, nothing we do may have lasting impact can alleviate the fear of others' judgments and empower us to pursue what we truly desire.
• It is more effective to eliminate negative self-labels and focus on actions you can take, regardless of perceived worthiness or societal expectations.
• Understanding that success isn't about what we deserve, but rather about taking the actions that lead to desired outcomes, can motivate us to move forward without self-imposed limitations.

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How To Take Action

I would suggest that small business owners and entrepreneurs focus on changing their language because it shapes how they think. If you keep saying you want to be happy or successful, you're actually telling yourself you're not those things right now. Instead, just be in the moment without adding labels or judgments. Just say "I work" not "I work to be happy."

When setting goals, do it for the sake of the process, not for an outcome. Love what you do every day, and let the results come as they may. This takes the pressure off and lets you enjoy the work more.

It could also help to talk things out with a wise friend who gets life. They don't have to be a philosopher, just someone thoughtful. They can help you see things simpler and clearer. Swap stories and ideas with them regularly.

Don't label yourself with problems like "I am an alcoholic" or "I am unsuccessful." This can make you stuck on those issues. Instead, act without thinking about those labels. Just do things because you want to or because they're right for you.

Affirmations might help a bit, but going deeper and taking out the whole idea of worthiness can be freeing. Just act because you can, not because you are "worthy" or "deserve" it.

Lastly, accept that maybe no one will remember what you did long after you're gone, and that's okay. It can set you free from worrying about what others think. This can give you the courage to do what you really want, like starting your YouTube channel or trying a new business idea, without fearing judgment.

In summary, speak truthfully, enjoy the process, seek wisdom from friends, drop negative labels, forget about worthiness, and don't fear what others think. This can help you be more content, take risks, and ultimately, be more successful.

Quotes

"A desire is a contract we make with ourselves to be unhappy until we get what we want"

– Alex Hormozi

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"Life just is and it's the only way that you can actually be there"

– Alex Hormozi

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"We live in this like this shoulds and have to's and like happiness everyone talks about it and it's like everyone is unhappy because they say they want to be happy"

– Alex Hormozi

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"If life just is…I don't need to judge the am it just is"

– Alex Hormozi

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"If you want to make the transition from like a process driven life…it has to be I do them period not because I do them"

– Alex Hormozi