I married for money…
Summary
- The most crucial decision in increasing net worth isn't the business you start, industry, market, or pricing, but who you marry.
- Your spouse can either grind against you or support you—this affects your personal and business life significantly.
- You cannot change your partner into someone like my wife, Leila; instead, focus on appreciating who they already are.
- When I met Leila on a 15-minute froyo date, our connection was more intellectual than romantic; this non-romantic start led us to develop our relationship logically and in business first.
- We realized our combined strengths in sales could significantly impact our business, so Leila joined me in gym launches, which led to our rapid business growth.
- Division of roles was key to scaling our business; delegating 80% of tasks to Leila and focusing the rest on me improved our operations and growth.
- In business, having a partner aligns with either a "cheerleader" or "fullback" role; cheerleaders support from the sidelines, while fullbacks are directly involved in the business, trading off roles as needed.
- Managing the dichotomy in relationships between closeness/familiarity and distance/intrigue is crucial; too much of either can lead to problems such as becoming mere roommates or feeling disconnected.
- Leila and I actively create space between us, like having separate offices, to maintain intrigue and avoid becoming too familiar, which is essential for attraction.
- Relationships must balance shared reality with individual growth, ensuring both partners grow in the same direction to avoid becoming strangers over time.
- Our relationship prioritization in 2020, despite business setbacks, greatly improved our marriage by focusing on removing barriers and expressing shared discontent, which fostered a more truthful and collaborative environment.
- Love can be logically developed through actions, even if romantic love isn't present at the start; Leila and I cultivated love over time rather than relying on instant romance.
- If you're in a relationship, identify if your partner is a cheerleader or fullback, assess your need for closeness or space, and remember that love can be created and is not solely based on emotion.
- Making a logical marriage choice for partnership in business and life can be one of the best decisions for personal and financial success.
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How To Take Action
I would suggest focusing on your relationship if you're looking to grow your business or personal life. The person you choose as your partner plays a huge role. Here are some steps you can follow:
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Appreciate Your Partner: Don't try to change who they are. Instead, find out what's special about them and appreciate those qualities.
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Work Together: If your spouse can join you in your business, great! If not, ensure they're cheering you on. Either way, working in harmony is key.
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Divide Roles: If your partner is involved in the business, decide who does what. Having clear roles can make things run much smoother.
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Manage Distance and Closeness: Spend time apart to maintain intrigue but also work on being close enough that you don't grow apart.
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Have Separate Spaces: Even if it's just different offices or time alone, it helps keep the relationship fresh.
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Grow Together: Make sure you're both heading in the same direction with your personal growth.
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Prioritize Your Relationship: In tough times, work on your relationship just as hard as you work on your business.
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Create Love Through Actions: Understand that love can be built over time with thoughtful actions, not just instant romance.
So, if your partner is in your business, figure if they are a cheerleader or a fullback. Create the right balance of closeness and space. Remember, choosing a partner who complements you in life and business can make a massive difference.
Quotes
"The single most important decision that you have in increasing your net worth is who you marry"
– Alex Hormozi
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"You don't change who you marry, you're not going to change"
– Alex Hormozi
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"I knew if someone could sell, I knew we could make a lot of money together"
– Alex Hormozi
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"It's my point is that if they're not doing one of these two things, they are detracting from what you ultimately want to do"
– Alex Hormozi
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"We married for logic, we married for business reasons, and it was one of the best decisions business-wise that I have ever made"
– Alex Hormozi
