How To Never Feel Stressed Again

Summary

• Don't let others control your happiness; your response to their actions determines your happiness.
• How we perceive and react to life's events shapes our overall experience.
• We often label experiences as "bad" due to conditioning from childhood but can choose to view them objectively.
• To reframe a situation, ask: "What if this happened regularly?" If it were expected, your reaction might change, demonstrating the power of perspective.
• Compare circumstances to weather: neither inherently good nor bad, just different conditions. Our labeling creates the concept of good or bad.
• Imagine your current problem on a larger time scale: will it matter in 100 years, or 10,000 years? This can reduce the importance we ascribe to the issue and alleviate stress.
• Remember that historical figures who seemed significant are now forgotten to emphasize the transient nature of importance and worries.
• Use the death of a beloved pet as an example; consider how shifting your view from loss to gratitude for the time spent can alter your emotional response.
• Playing with time and volume perspectives can help you exit the cycle of happy and sad, giving you control over your interpretation of life's events.
• While no one navigates life's challenges flawlessly, awareness of these strategies provides greater control over personal perceptions and resilience.

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How To Take Action

I would suggest starting with how you see the problems that come your way. When something makes you upset, take a moment to ask yourself, "Why is this bad? Could it be good instead?" See, we often think bad things are happening, but sometimes we just decide they're bad because that's what we learned growing up.

Here's a trick – think about time. Ask yourself, "In 100 years, will this problem matter?" Most times, the answer is no. It won't. This helps you stop thinking it's so important and lets you relax more.

Now, let's talk about weather. You know how some people say rainy days are bad and sunny days are good? That's not really true, is it? Rain or sunshine, it's just different kinds of days. If you start thinking like this, you don't get as upset when things don't go how you expect.

What if something happens a lot? Like being stuck in traffic. If it happened every day, you wouldn't be mad because you'd know it's coming. Same with good stuff – if you got to places faster than usual, you'd be happy! So, when things seem bad, ask yourself, "What if this was normal?" It can change how you feel about it.

Lastly, what about when you lose something you love – like a pet? It's easy to be sad. But what if you thought, "What if pets usually lived only six months, and mine lived longer?" You'd feel lucky, right? Changing how you look at it can switch your sadness to being grateful.

Everyone has things that bug them. No one is perfect. But knowing how to think about your problems differently can give you more control and make you feel better. That's how I handle tough times and feel less worried and sad. Try it out next time you have a problem, and see how it changes things for you.

Quotes

"if people have to treat you a certain way for you to be happy then it means that your happiness is in their hands"

– Alex Hormozi

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"how we manage the circumstances or the conditions that come to us dictates how our life turns out"

– Alex Hormozi

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"when something bothers you, pull it out and look at it and say 'what happened and why is this bad?' and 'what would it look like if it were good?'"

– Alex Hormozi

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"when in reality it just is, it's just the weather"

– Alex Hormozi

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"if you want to make it positive you say 'well, what if every time I got in a car normally it would take an hour and today it took 30. I'd be pretty excited about it'"

– Alex Hormozi