How to Deal With Heartbreak
Summary
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Sometimes we get attached to myths or sayings, like it taking half the time of a relationship to get over it, but these aren't always true. It's up to us to decide how long we want to hold onto something.
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A good therapist can challenge our thinking and help us move on by setting a clear, even surprising timeline for recovery, like being over it by Thursday.
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Using strong words like "heartbroken" or "a part of me has died" gives power to the pain and can make it harder to move forward. Instead, recognize these as temporary feelings.
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Remember that a breakup is just the end of one relationship, and it doesn't mean you're broken. It's a process and there's always the chance to find someone else in the future.
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It's important to focus on taking active steps towards getting over someone, rather than dwelling on the loss. This perspective can aid in faster recovery.
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How To Take Action
I suggest first shifting your mindset when facing personal growth challenges or a breakup. Avoid clinging to common myths, like healing taking a specific amount of time. Realize that it's up to you to determine how long you'll hold onto something. Decide on a recovery timeline that feels right and surprising, like setting a goal to feel better by a specific day.
A good way to accelerate recovery is by using more neutral language. Instead of saying, "I'm heartbroken," try acknowledging it as a temporary feeling. This language shift can help lessen the emotional weight and encourage swifter healing.
Remember, a breakup is merely the end of one relationship—not the end of your world. Focus on the future and the possibility of new connections. Actively take steps to move past the loss, like spending time with friends or exploring new interests, rather than dwelling on the past.
Lastly, consider talking to a mentor or therapist who can challenge your thinking and support you in forming a recovery plan. This guidance can propel you toward quicker emotional recovery and personal growth.
