Balancing work, life, relationships (my first AMA)

Summary

• I've realized that being overly collaborative can sometimes hinder my decisiveness; I used to seek too much input, which delayed decisions. Now, I make sure to value input but ultimately rely on my own informed judgment.
• It's important for women juggling family and business to recognize that you'll often have to choose one over the other in the short term. However, over time, it may balance out. Do not conflate the time spent on work as an indication of its priority over family.
• My drive for success may come from various sources, like reinforcement from quick success or the joy in hard work and seeing its positive impact. It's crucial to focus on activities you enjoy and that bring rewards.
• In balancing "masculine" and "feminine" roles in business, do not label these as gendered traits but view them as necessary skills for leadership that should be applied as needed, based on the situation.
• For embedding structure into a successful yet chaotic business, start by establishing clear routines, meeting cadences, and KPI dashboards. However, the primary challenge will be managing the behavioral change in the team.
• Balancing energies between partners comes down to shedding work personas at home and reinforcing behaviors we appreciate in each other, rather than holding on to labels of masculine and feminine.
• Building a sales team from scratch, initially the founder should make sales. As the team grows, add a player-coach until there are enough reps to require a sales manager who can organize and scale the team.
• Pursuing the long-term worth of a project should be a mix of personal interest and market viability. Ensure there's a balance between enjoying the work and having a real demand for it.
• To gain respect as an employee, exhibit behaviors you associate with respect, such as making decisions and holding boundaries decisively. Self-respect translates into how others perceive and treat you.
• An operator should have a strong understanding of marketing and sales, as these are critical departments. It's okay if your strengths grow over time, and it's important to recognize where your interests lie.
• When things are falling apart, leveraging negative emotions like frustration or desperation can be powerful motivators. Remember, motivation often comes from adversity.
• To stay present despite distractions, avoid indulging in them. By not giving into distractions, you naturally enter a state of flow, which is essential for focused and effective work.
• As a company grows, fostering better communication and stronger leadership skills are essential. As you scale from 15 to 30 employees, align your messaging with the evolving needs of the organization.
• The cat we were supposed to receive was not the one delivered. My assistant ended up keeping the cat she took in after the shipping mix-up, while I realized owning a cat wasn't suitable for me at the moment.

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How To Take Action

I would suggest starting with small changes to become more decisive. Trust your gut feeling more and don't wait for everyone's opinion before making a decision. It's okay to listen, but in the end, rely on your own judgment.

When balancing family and business, accept that sometimes you'll choose one over the other, but it evens out over time. Remember, spending more time on work doesn't mean it's more important than family.

Focus on doing things you enjoy and that give you rewards. Success often comes from activities that make you happy and have a positive impact on others.

For leadership, use both "hard" and "soft" skills as needed. Don't think about them as masculine or feminine – they're just tools for good business.

If your business is growing and needs structure, start with clear routines, meeting schedules, and kpi dashboards. The tough part is changing the team's habits, but communication is key.

At home, leave work behind. Show appreciation for the behaviors you like in your partner. Reinforce those behaviors with kindness and thanks.

If you're building a sales team, make sales yourself first. Then, hire one rep and be their coach. As you grow, add a player-coach, and eventually bring in a sales manager to organize and scale up.

Pursue projects that balance personal interest with market demand. You'll stick with something you like, even when it gets tough.

To gain respect at work, act with confidence. Make decisions and stick to them. Show self-respect to earn respect from others.

If you operate a business, understand marketing and sales. These skills are critical and can be developed over time.

Use negative emotions like frustration to motivate yourself when things get tough. Work hardest when you need to turn things around.

Stay present by avoiding distractions and entering a state of flow. This will help you focus and do good work.

As your company grows, improve communication and find strong leaders. This will align your team as you add more people.

Lastly, sometimes unexpected things, like a cat mix-up, can teach you about responsibility. Don't rush into big decisions, think about what's right for you.

Quotes

"I tend to question myself and like what I feel in my gut is the right decision to make in the business"

– Leila Hormozi

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"In the long term, you are not going to choose one over the other, but in the short term day to day you will always be choosing one over another"

– Leila Hormozi

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"I personally make more progress with negative emotions than I think I do with positive ones"

– Leila Hormozi

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"You have to understand how to operate a company. Marketing and sales are like arguably two of the most important departments"

– Leila Hormozi

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"You get what you tolerate"

– Leila Hormozi